THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS – Learning to let go!!!!....

THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS!!!!!!!!!!...... – Learning to let go!!!!....

- ‘Depressed???’ , ‘Guilty???’, ‘Worried???’ – Learn to let go!!!!

“I will never FORGET nor FORGIVE this!!!!”

How many times in life we would have been in a phase when we have said these lines!!.. Just try saying these words aloud!!... Listen to what they imply!!.. Can u feel the hurt and helpless anger therein? Can u feel the betrayal, the feeling of being cheated, let down and taken for granted??.. can u??.. Are u able to??..

You probably also feel a sense of pride, a sense of control in tat declaration tat there will be no forgiveness for tat person!!.. You think u hav the control over the situation wen u deny them forgiveness. You would like to put conditions n resolutions on tat person before u forgive them. They should, bend, ask for apology, grovel, admit their flaw n fault, show remorse or more before you come down to forgive them… Trust me! U have these unspoken conditions n wishes!!!!...

Now, temme something. M sure all of us hav been in such situations one time or the other. Does anything along the lines of the above mentioned thought process happen? Often, next to none of these things happen. U see No apologies forthcoming.. no admission of wrong… nor is there any show of remorse. That person, as in the offender or pain inflictor gets along wid his/her life just fine!!... U hang on to ur ego by not forgiving and they hang on to theirs by not asking for it. Nothing but the barrier between u is thickened leaving u stranded n literally nowhere!!!!!!!!...

When you refuse to forgive u know wat happens?

· U go on holding on to the situations which hurt u all the more. So, in one way u are still allowing tat person to hurt u…

· And everytime u bring up tat memory, it eats u up.. Coz’ u drag each and every teeny weny detail about tat situation.. relive every moment of it.. n drain urself out completely!!!!....

· U urself hav made victim out of urself.. n continue to bleed wid no fault of urs..

· By not giving tat person fogiveness, rather than making them pay. U are the one who is paying the dues!!..

The only sane n wise way to free urself from the painful memories.. erase ur hurts.. to live.. is to forgive. Forgiveness is not ur charity to them, but a gift to urself… a gift which frees u of the past.. d hurts.. d guilts..

It gives u space to breathe.. to live.. to move on.. to look forward to life… to grow up as human beings..

Remember,

“Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong, the weak cannot forgive!!”

When u forgive someone it shows ur strength not ur weakness.. It exemplifies ur emotional maturity. Forgiveness allows u to be free.. free thinker’s empowered and emotionally adept people!!!...

P.S: Disclaimer: Inspired from an article in magazine and self-experience :D :D