THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS – Learning to let go!!!!....

THE IMPORTANCE OF FORGIVENESS!!!!!!!!!!...... – Learning to let go!!!!....

- ‘Depressed???’ , ‘Guilty???’, ‘Worried???’ – Learn to let go!!!!

“I will never FORGET nor FORGIVE this!!!!”

How many times in life we would have been in a phase when we have said these lines!!.. Just try saying these words aloud!!... Listen to what they imply!!.. Can u feel the hurt and helpless anger therein? Can u feel the betrayal, the feeling of being cheated, let down and taken for granted??.. can u??.. Are u able to??..

You probably also feel a sense of pride, a sense of control in tat declaration tat there will be no forgiveness for tat person!!.. You think u hav the control over the situation wen u deny them forgiveness. You would like to put conditions n resolutions on tat person before u forgive them. They should, bend, ask for apology, grovel, admit their flaw n fault, show remorse or more before you come down to forgive them… Trust me! U have these unspoken conditions n wishes!!!!...

Now, temme something. M sure all of us hav been in such situations one time or the other. Does anything along the lines of the above mentioned thought process happen? Often, next to none of these things happen. U see No apologies forthcoming.. no admission of wrong… nor is there any show of remorse. That person, as in the offender or pain inflictor gets along wid his/her life just fine!!... U hang on to ur ego by not forgiving and they hang on to theirs by not asking for it. Nothing but the barrier between u is thickened leaving u stranded n literally nowhere!!!!!!!!...

When you refuse to forgive u know wat happens?

· U go on holding on to the situations which hurt u all the more. So, in one way u are still allowing tat person to hurt u…

· And everytime u bring up tat memory, it eats u up.. Coz’ u drag each and every teeny weny detail about tat situation.. relive every moment of it.. n drain urself out completely!!!!....

· U urself hav made victim out of urself.. n continue to bleed wid no fault of urs..

· By not giving tat person fogiveness, rather than making them pay. U are the one who is paying the dues!!..

The only sane n wise way to free urself from the painful memories.. erase ur hurts.. to live.. is to forgive. Forgiveness is not ur charity to them, but a gift to urself… a gift which frees u of the past.. d hurts.. d guilts..

It gives u space to breathe.. to live.. to move on.. to look forward to life… to grow up as human beings..

Remember,

“Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong, the weak cannot forgive!!”

When u forgive someone it shows ur strength not ur weakness.. It exemplifies ur emotional maturity. Forgiveness allows u to be free.. free thinker’s empowered and emotionally adept people!!!...

P.S: Disclaimer: Inspired from an article in magazine and self-experience :D :D

Hazaaron Khwaishein Aisi Ki Har Khwaish Pe Dam Nikle - Mirza Galib

This one by Galib saab holds a special place in my heart... n has a lot of meaning for me....

Hazaaron Khwaahishen aisi ki har Khwaaish pe dam nikale
bahut nikale mere armaan lekin phir bhii kam nikale

Dare kyuun meraa qaatil kyaa rahegaa usakii gardan par
vo Khuun jo chashm-e-tar se umr bhar yuu dam-ba-dam nikale

nikalanaa Khuld se aadam kaa sunate aaye hai.n lekin
bahut be-aabaruu hokar tere kuuche se ham nikale

bharam khul jaaye zaalim tere qaamat kii daraazii kaa

agar is turraa-e-purapech-o-Kham kaa pech-o-Kham nikale

magar likhavaaye koii usako Khat to hamase likhavaaye
huii subah aur ghar se kaan par rakkhar qalam nikale

huii is daur me.n ma.nsuub mujhase baadaa-ashaamii
phir aayaa vo zamaanaa jo jahaa.N se jaam-e-jam nikale

huii jinase tavaqqo Khastagii kii daad paane kii
vo hamase bhii ziyaadaa Khastaa-e-teG-e-sitam nikale

muhabbat me.n nahii.n hai farq jiine aur marane kaa
usii ko dekh kar jiite hai.n jis kaafir pe dam nikale

zara kar jor siine par ki tiir-e-pursitam nikale
jo vo nikle to dil nikale jo dil nikale to dam nikale

Khudaa ke vaaste pardaa na kaabe se uThaa zaalim
Kahii.n aisaa na ho yaa.N bhii vahii kaafir sanam nikale

Kahaan mai Khaane ka daravaazaa 'Ghalib' aur kahaan vaaiz
par itanaa jaanate hai.n kal vo jaataa thaa ke ham nikale

VIDEO

हजारों ख्वाहिशें ऐसी कि हर ख्वाहिश पे दम निकले
बहुत निकले मेरे अरमाँ, लेकिन फिर भी कम निकले

डरे क्यों मेरा कातिल क्या रहेगा उसकी गर्दन पर
वो खून जो चश्म-ऐ-तर से उम्र भर यूं दम-ब-दम निकले

निकलना खुल्द से आदम का सुनते आये हैं लेकिन
बहुत बे-आबरू होकर तेरे कूचे से हम निकले

भ्रम खुल जाये जालीम तेरे कामत कि दराजी का
अगर इस तुर्रा-ए-पुरपेच-ओ-खम का पेच-ओ-खम निकले

मगर लिखवाये कोई उसको खत तो हमसे लिखवाये
हुई सुबह और घर से कान पर रखकर कलम निकले

हुई इस दौर में मनसूब मुझसे बादा-आशामी
फिर आया वो जमाना जो जहाँ से जाम-ए-जम निकले

हुई जिनसे तव्वको खस्तगी की दाद पाने की
वो हमसे भी ज्यादा खस्ता-ए-तेग-ए-सितम निकले

मुहब्बत में नहीं है फ़र्क जीने और मरने का
उसी को देख कर जीते हैं जिस काफिर पे दम निकले

जरा कर जोर सिने पर कि तीर-ऐ-पुरसितम निकले
जो वो निकले तो दिल निकले, जो दिल निकले तो दम निकले

खुदा के बासते पर्दा ना काबे से उठा जालिम
कहीं ऐसा न हो याँ भी वही काफिर सनम निकले

कहाँ मयखाने का दरवाजा 'गालिब' और कहाँ वाइज़
पर इतना जानते हैं, कल वो जाता था के हम निकले

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Some of my fav songs in my voice.... m not gonna sing these songs for sometime near future....

I have sung all these songs in one go today...
They are few of my favorite songs...
I am leaving back a lot of memoirs with these songs.... have a lot of bittersweet memories...
Everything m familiar with... m gonna leave it behind.. m ending it all with these songs close to my heart... I am not gonna sing these songs for sometime near future....


N they are.................................

• Anbendra mazayile - Minsara Kanavu

http://www.esnips.com/doc/dc6bc629-5211-49e0-96e8-e400fc5e8898/anbendra


http://www.mediafire.com/?wxmztmh3nqo

• Dil ki ye dhadkan

http://www.esnips.com/doc/74acf6b5-7ad3-4c8b-a937-9f203d553b57/dILKIYEDHADKAn


http://www.mediafire.com/?jtnyigl3mjo

• Dil mera ek taara - 16 december

http://www.esnips.com/doc/dc5c100d-8b26-4625-a481-2d6419f55c69/dil-mera


http://www.mediafire.com/?mnxbnmmo0my

• en kaadhale- Duet

http://www.esnips.com/doc/e02a2780-a8ad-4930-838d-3848a943daab/en-kaadhale

http://www.mediafire.com/?ztvjkwligzm

• Enamma thozhi - Kaalai Pani

http://www.esnips.com/doc/9f663148-639b-4e5c-a8f0-4bf5b0c619e2/enamma-thozhi


http://www.mediafire.com/?dummwu3gm2f

• Jaane kya chahe mann - Pyaar ke side effects

http://www.esnips.com/doc/4ee8a250-f900-43c9-b6f1-38dc3e8b76d5/jaane-kya-chahe-mann


http://www.mediafire.com/?lyjmnwv2nwj

• teri Yaadein

http://www.esnips.com/doc/1d68346b-b01d-48a0-92ea-fd36d5baec9d/teriyaadein


http://www.mediafire.com/?mzmr3minyae

• Yamunai aatrile - Dalapathi

http://www.esnips.com/doc/b5696a5b-c95b-4a6a-84bd-53158a346e84/YaMuNai


http://www.mediafire.com/?mjnzni0z0iy

• Yun chal pade hain

http://www.esnips.com/doc/b20047b4-d687-433a-9f50-e4a020318ae2/yun-chal-pade-hain


http://www.mediafire.com/?3eqi1muixem

• And the folder with all these songs

http://www.esnips.com/web/lavanya61-mysongs/


http://www.mediafire.com/?sharekey=cb9252d95b59b87e19747bd91027d4dd825d6c4f6ec99531

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NUMB!!!!!!!!!!!...... To anything and Everything!!!!!!!!!....... R.I.P!!!!... R.I.P!!!!... :( :( :( :( :(

Azhagana neram adhai neethaan koduthai......

Azhiyadha sogam athaiyum nee thaan koduthai.......

Kan thoongum neram paarthu

kadavul vandhu ponadhu pol,,,,

Yen vaazhvil vandhe ponai

yematram thaangalaiye!!!!...

Kanne nee illamal....

Boologam irutidudey!!!!.....

Pogathey...... Pogathey...... Nee irundhaal naan irrupen....

Pogathey...... Pogathey....... Nee pirinthaal naan errapen.....[:(][:(][:(][:(]

Ashkon se aisa rishta hai ke Hansi se darr lagta hai,

Ghmaon ki itni aadat hai ke Khushi se

darr lagta hai,

Nafraton ka aisa ghuman hai ke mohobbat se darr lagta hai,

Sapnon ko marne ki aisi aadat hai ab toh ZINDAGI se hi darr lagta hai!!!!....[:(][:(][:(][:(]

Zindagi ka saath toh pehle hi toot gaya,

Ab Saanson ke rukne ka kaisa gham;

Aisey darr darr ke jeene se toh accha hai,

MAUT ko kyun na galey laga lein ham!!!!.......[:(][:(][:(][:(]

Kuch bhikhri hui yaadein.....

Kuch tootey hue sapney.....

Kuch faaslon se bharey rishtey.....

Aur inkey beech mein Ham khadey hain Kuch Ghamon ko Sanjotey!!!!!.....[:(][:(][:(][:(]

I cared for people most- enough to be ignored.

I luved people enough- to get hurt.

I was outgoing enough- to let sadness in.

I was talkative enough- to let silence talk.

I was friendly enough to make loneliness my best friend.

I was such a good company to be with- that evil took a chance.

I was daring enough to ditch people out of my life.

I was stubborn enough to hurt anyone.

I was so expressive that my emotions lost their values.

I cried enough for my heart to get dry.

I trusted enough to be betrayed.

I tried so much for happiness that it got tired of me.

Idhuku dhan soluradhu adaki vasinga nu!

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>My heart only fought for what it wanted. Now my heart is having to fight to let it go...

>Now that I have loved so purely and deeply, I have realized how lonely I really am

>No matter how many times I try and move on, my heart always takes me back here to you.

>I believe the saddest thing in life, is caring so much for someone and then one day you look into their eyes and listen to them talk and realize that they are gone. All you see in front of you is a stranger with just a known name.....[:(][:(][:(][:(]

[i]"The Day u left me something died in me to never relive again... I lost tat part of me to never find it again... M lost!!! M blank!!! M numb... M Dead!!!..."[:(][:(][:(][:(]

R.I.P!!!!!!!!!!!....................
R.I.P!!!!!!!!!!!....................
R.I.P!!!!!!!!!!!....................
R.I.P!!!!!!!!!!!....................
R.I.P!!!!!!!!!!!....................

....................................YOU!!!!!!!!....................................

This is not a poem... this is not a dedication.... just one of those random musings of mine... which hav no rhyme or reason... no talent or passion.. they r just a few random words which came into my head....

Every little thing say u & do...
Makes me so proud of u...
Even the smallest gesture by u..
Just makes me adore u...
When u smile the way u do...
I just wanna hold on to u...
When there is this sadness in u...
Wish i cud take away ur tears from u...
When u luk happy n fresh as d morning dew..
Wish i cud be the reason for the joy in u..
There is only one thing tat i'll ever ask of u...
Just don't take away, my right to care for u...
Coz' though u never knew....
It was always You...... Uniquely You...
Just You... Forever and ever Only YOU!!!!!!..........




................................................YOU!!!!!!!............................................

Yun Chal pade hain rahee safar mein.... in my voice!!!..

I heard these lines of a song somewhere(dunno where)... they have stuck to my mind ever since...
i cudnt find the original track.. so i hav posted this one in my voice.... the orginal one sounds way better... i recorded this one in a hurry n wid a pathetic mike.. there r a lot of mistakes.. please bear wid me... n if anyone has the original track.. please lemme know... thanks....

here is the link....

Yun chal pade hain

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N here are the lyrics....

Jitna bhi chaahoon, phir bhi na paaun...
Apnon se dar kinaara...
saanson ki dhadkan, chubhti hai har pal...
darati hai khud apna hi saaya...



Bheed itni ho gayi achanak...
apney ko akela hi paaya....



Yun chal pade hain raahee safar...
ajise nadi aur kinaara....



Laa laa.. la.. laa laa.........




Phir bhi kinaare toh sookhe hi rehtey hain...
Lipta kiye unse dhaara....



Thodey se baadal, thodi si baarish...
Kohra bhi kal tha chaaya....



Laa laa.. la.. laa laa.........



Itney ujaale ho gaye achaanak...
Apna bhi dikhta na saaya....
haan.. apna bhi dikhta na saaya....
apna bhi dikhta na saaya.............

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Another about me!!!!.. think u can handle it???!!.. then go ahead... i assure u..its gonna be fun this time around for u too!!!!......

This is one of those long, random, slam-book kind of question answer things.. I came across this in one of the blogs I follow…. I loved it… so I copied it n filled it wid my ramblings…

Feel free to copy it… n tag ur friends too… see u’ll have fun!!!...

But lemme warn u… it quite long…. So my heart felt appreciation to all those people who r gonna fill this fully and properly… n even more to those people who are gonna read this fully and properly…

Hav fun people!!!...

99 Questions

1. What is your full name?

Lavanya S Ishwaran

2. When is your birthday?

July 15th

3. What is your sex?

Female

4. Do you have siblings?

Sadly no….

5. Who do you live with?

Parents

6. Are you single?

YES!!!!... N prefer to remain so…..

7. Do you have pets?

Nope…

8. What is your hometown?

Tamil Nadu (Kumbakonam)

9. Where do you live now?

New Delhi

Part 2 - What is your favorite…

10. Color?

Blue, Black and Pink

11. Day?

Friday and Sunday

12. Month?

January and February

13. Season?

Monsooon any day…. N then winter

14. Animal?

I love puppies… but hav none

15. Flower?

Rose, mallipoo… n I like the look n colors of Sunflower & Tulips

16. TV Show?

There is nothing tat interesting tat can keep me hooked up to d tv.. Love Airtel Super Singer though…

17. Movie?

Since m a movie fanatic.. Its gonna be a long long list… I’ll make a new note for tat.. :P :D

18. Commercial on TV?

Carbury’s ad’s (d old ones… which take me back to my childhood!!.. nostalgic… nostalgic… nostalgic..), Airtel, Chennai silks Vivaaga( I am biased there… my chachu is in there.. :P J ), ICICI Jeetey raho ad.. a few more.. don’t remember now.. will add later…

19. Song?

Phew!!!... tat wud be an endless list… I’ll have to write a book then… coz’ I keep discovering new ones…. So most certainly cant name a few…

20. Food?

Mum’s Rajma Chawal, the typical Bombay Ice Gola, Bombay bhel puri n Pav Bhaji. I just can’t get enough of it… literally all junk!!!... :-P :)

21. Disney Character?

Winnie the pooh, Cinderella, Snow White (of course dummy.. I believe in fairies… :D )

22. Cartoon Character?

Tom & jerry for sure…

23. Non-alcoholic drink?

Nimbu paani… sumtimes the blue lagoon mocktail…

24. Alcoholic drink?

I don’t drink :)

25. Kind of dessert?

Cadbury’s dairy milk chocolate……

26. Restaurant?

Chungwa for Chinese, Dhabha(In Claridge’s for Punjabi)

27. Store?

None…

Part 3 - If you could…

28. Go anywhere in the world where would you go?

Why just one place in the world.. I wud love to tour the whole world….

29. Talk to anybody dead or alive who would you choose?

To the Comedy King Nagesh Sir!!!... tats one of the many desires unfulfilled…

30. Do anything you wanted to what would you do?

I wud like to read a few people’s mind.. who confuse me to no end about wat they want from… what they want me to do…

31. Change one thing about the world what would you change?

Remove the border from the maps… n the hatred from the hearts between India and Pakistan

32. Have one superpower, what would it be?

I’d demolish terrorism, child labor, rapes, poverty… n remove all orphanages and old ages in one stroke…. n adopt each n every one of those kids.. n old grand ma’s n grand pa’s.. if only I cud!!!.... sigh!!!.....

33. Change one thing about your past what would u change?

I’d like two things…. to go back in time and correct some mistakes in life…. Not because I regret making them.. but because I caused a lot of pain n disappointment to people I love…. I regret tat… Secondly, I’d learn music properly... I mean though I hav.. I wish I cud go back n take music more seriously…

Part 4 - What is your least favorite…

34. Color?

Florescent & Orange!

35. Day?

Monday…

36. Month?

June…. Its hot hot hot in Delhi

37. Season?

Summer

38. Animal?

Many creepy n crawly ones…

39. Flower?

None

40. TV Show?

All the daily soaps n serials.. wish I cud remove each and every one of ‘em…

41. Movie?

Then again many…. Recently Ram Gopal Verma ki Aag.. a murder of one of all time fav muvi ever…

42. Commercial on TV?

Harpic ad, men’s inner wear n perfume ad’s… sanitary napkin ads… all of ‘em are eeeuw!!!!!…..

43. Song?

Any song sung by Himesh reshamiya…

44. Food?

Umm.. there r a few.. I wudn’t name ‘em.. coz if my mum comes across this.. she’ll kill me.. :P :D

45. Disney Character?

None really

46. Cartoon Character?

Dunno..

47. Non-alcoholic drink?

Complan and horlicks… n turmeric milk… eeuw…

48. Alcoholic drink?

Tried vodka once.. hated it!!!!!!!!...

49. Dessert?

Anything too sugary!!!!!!!!

50. Restaurant?

Urghh.. I can name quite a number…

51. Store?

Any store which is packed from 10 am to 10 pm wid people who are there to buy clothes, jewelry(especially) n stuff when they don’t even need ‘em…. N I hate shopping hours n hours n hours…

Part 5 - If you’re a girl fill this part in (guys skip to part 6)

52. What do you look for in a guy?

Hmmm.. for once I am gonna answer truthfully n properly widout avoiding the issue… Should share my interests and passions!!!.. Needen’t hav the same interests n passions, but shud be able to understand my need for ‘em… Should atleast like music(coz I love t), it wud be nice if he loves to travel coz I hav a long long list of places I wanna see…shudn’t be stuffy, snobbish n proud about his money or talent… if he has it in abundance.. gud for hime( n me :P) but why throw it around… Should laugh wid me.. n we should be able to laugh at each other n ourselves too when we are together.. we should have loads n loads of arguments.. fight… tear each others hair out n our own too.. :P :D but should make up sweetly in the end… he definitely should be romantic.. but not over the top – Knight in shining armor kind… should let me fight my own battles n just be there by my side( coz’ tats all I need).. should be able to lean on me… as I wud on him… Should love my parents d way I will love his… Can be a momma’s boy!!.. I really don’t mind.. coz all guys are…. But that one thing which is more important than anything else is tat he should NEED me… NEED me to be there in his life… LOVE me… But also Trust me!!!

Phew!!!!!... errrr.. am I asking for too much????.... I probably am.. but wat the heck!!... M not perfect.. So m Probably Asking More than I Deserve…. But one thing is for sure.. I don’t wanna perfect guy either.. :) :)

53. Long or short hair?

Short

54. Book smart or jock smart?

Jock Smart

55. Tall or short?

Tall(but not very tall.. otherwise I’ll feel like a midget)

56. Big or little muscles?

Doesn’t really matter.

57. Sweet/sensitive or Sweet/tough?

Sweet, sensitive and Tough

Part 6 - If you\’re a guy fill this part in (girls skip to part 7)

58. Tall or short?

59. Beauty or brains?

60. What do you look for in a girl?

61. Long or short hair?

62. Curly or straight?

63. Sweet or butch?

Part 7 - The first thing that comes to your mind when you hear….

64. Farm –

Lots of long green grass n cattle's… :)

65. Zoo –

when my whole family and my extended family wid all my lovely cousins has a get together.. hehe :P :D

66. Red -

Bold

67. Bug –

hate ‘em!!!!

68. Punk -

hairstyle

69. Ralph –

wats tat??

70. Glue –

sticky…

71. Mouse –

jerry :P

72. Fire -

pure

73. Life –

endurance n patience

74. Phone -

mobile

Part 8 - In the next 10 years do you see yourself…

75. With a job?

Yes!!!!... but a job I love.. not a job which is just a job n will always remain a job…

76. Married?

Ummm… Guess I won’t have a choice as far as this goes… U know d usual emotional atyachaar… :P… But I hope it will be a Love +Arranged marriage (sigh!!... m a romantic still… some habits die hard…. But I also love my parents to death.. so I hav to hav tat combo)

77. With kids?

Yes!!.. for sure… But hopefully one of ‘em adopted…. :) :)

78. In a different town from the one you’re in now?

Though I love Delhi.. i wanna settle in south…. Chennai or Hyd in tat order.. :)

79. With a pet?

Dunno.. if possible

80. With a lot, or a little money?

Not more or less than what I actually need… I don’t wanna be super rich.. nor do I wanna start worrying about d month coming to an end.. n pending bills… none of the extremes…

81. In your own house?

Yup…

82. Happy?

Of course!!!.. tats one thing i dearly want.. to be happy n to make the world around me happy...

83. Still friends with the friends you have now?

Of course…Duh!!!.. tats a dumb question

Part 9 - What is your favorite memory of…

84. Elementary school?

Playing lots of pranks( m surely not gonna tell u abt 'em.. :P :D ) Making loads n loads of friends.. all the school competitions we participated…. Forging friendships tat last still :)

85. High School?

Freak out… did not take education seriously which I regret… the first brush of innocent, naïve love.. which will be there in memory ever.. the messenger service we played for other lovers n couples.. :)

86. College?

Everyday was memorable… learnt new things… created new things… :)

87. University?

Result day!!.. yay!!.. m a graduate finally!!!

88. Prom?

Don’t have one…

89. New Years?

The year 2000… stepping into a new millennium.. there was a thrill…

This year 2009…. There is a flavor of fresh hope… new milestones to be achieved… a smell of a happy ending romance… (yeah yeah yeah.. I know I am a romantic….)

90. St. Patricks day?

I seriously don’t have any idea about it…

91. Christmas?

Love to look out for santa.. he brings lot of joy n hope… :)

92. Halloween?

Seen n read in movies n books.. tats all...

93. Summer?

Summers of my childhood when I used to spend it wid my cousin.. looking forward to the summer this year as I hav new prospects lined up.. which are important in many ways.. :)

Part 10 - Would you rather be…

94. Hot or cold?

Cool!!!... :)

95. Tired or wired?

Wired!!

96. Hungry or full?

Full!!

97. Tall or small?

Tall!!

98. A lion or a tiger?

Ummm.. Both at a distance…

99. Canadian or American?

Huh???!!!!!.. An INDIAN any day!!!.... :) :) :)

Phew!!!!!!!!!!!!!..... finally finished it!!!!.... long process.. given the fact tat I write so much… but loved every minute of writing it!!!... I have a better inkling of myself now!!...

Kudos to everyone who read this fully!!!!!.... :P :D :)